While there will always be an ongoing debate surrounding the morality of casual sex, the fact is that more people want it then may actually admit it. Just check out an adult online dating site and you will understand what I mean. But what is more enticing? The opportunity to tally up how many members of the opposite sex you are able to sleep with? Or, could it be that you desire to have the benefits of an intimate relationship with a friend, even if it’s just a casual relationship, without the emotional stuff that often comes with a serious relationship. Let’s be honest. In a relationship we are rarely afraid of the physical part of casual sex; it’s the emotional side that can scare the hell out of us!
With recent movies hitting the big screen in the U.S. like No Strings Attached and Hall Pass, more people are wondering if casual sex is just for the movies. Can a casual relationship really work once you take it off the big screen and put it in the setting of the average living room, or kitchen, or bedroom, or elevator, of the average couple.
Some experts say that casual sex without commitment is impossible. Others say that a casual relationship with a no strings attached relationship is very possible, and can actually be healthy. Where you land on this issue may have much to do with your maturity, your age, or your lifestyle.
If you are interested in hooking up for a casual encounter the best advice out there is to communicate clearly with your potential partner. It’s when two people have different end games, or expectations, in mind that things can get sticky. Remember that emotional baggage that we mentioned before…the stuff that scares us? Well, that’s what will result if you’re not clear up front about what the sexual encounter is all about.
You must be ready and willing to tell yourself and your mate that “I am not ready for a relationship; I am not interested in having a serious relationship with you – now or in the future; and all I want is some good, clean, no strings attached casual sex.”
If you cannot honestly say that then perhaps you need to think a bit more about an illicit encounter.